9th March 2003 Volume 9, Issue 34
Think ‘women playing rugby’ and
one automatically conjures up an image of women built like female
wrestlers, an image of muscle-bulging, tough talking women who look
like they spend most of their time at the gym.
would not stop to think that while playing the game pretty well, they could
also perfectly well be delicate, quite feminine and have the looks and build
of an average woman at the same time.
think that’s impossible, take a look at the Havelocks women’s rugby team
and you’re in for a wake-up call, and it’s a pleasant one. Consisting
mainly of expatriates, these women have dared to follow their hearts’
desires, instead of letting the conventional idea of ‘a woman’ tie them
down in a society that can be suffocatingly conventional.
pursuing their dreams, these women have gone out onto the field tackling
men, of doing what they want to do, not stopping to think about the ‘what
ifs’ that could arise, like major injuries and society’s reaction.
female rugby players, who were a delight to meet and a treat to interview,
have found a way to step into a sport that is generally thought of as a men
only domain with their dedication, willingness to sacrifice and desire to
most of them got into it by accident, they say that they get a total sense
of satisfaction when playing and have big plans for the future. The team is
currently training for a tournament coming up later this month.
started when some of the girls played mixed touch rugby with a men’s team
called the Puffins every Tuesday at CR&FC. After the Puffins moved to
Havelocks, one of the guys had approached them and asked if they were
interested in getting a team together for a ladies’ tournament to
represent Havelocks and thus, the team was born.
far, the team has been together for just a few months but has already won
the trophy in their second ever match last October where they played against
12 other teams.
was a really good day,” said Lee, one of the players.
team does not play only against other women’s teams; they have also played
against the army team and play with the Puffins regularly.
tournaments coming up, these women sure put a lot of effort into the game.
The team practices twice a week and plays mixed touch rugby with the men’s
team once a week as well. While one would think that it would be pretty
difficult to play rugby with the guys, Lee says that it’s brilliant.
had a match with the army team and they were very supportive. On Thursdays
we play with the Puffins too,” said Lee.
get such an adrenalin rush while playing and feel fantastic after a game.
After practice we have a chat and socialise together. We also organise
events and it’s a fantastic way to meet people.”
says that she got into the game by accident and thinks it’s fantastic.
“We have a team that comes and goes so most times we make up a team at the
last moment but I really enjoy playing.”
another player says that she got into the game through a friend. “I used
to play tap rugger for fun and I watch lots of rugger. Being in this team is
very good for discipline and fitness and it feels good to play.”
who is engaged, says that her fiancé is very, very happy that she is in the
team. “He plays rugby and thinks it’s great and also very funny,” she
says, holding a rugger ball he gave her.
says that she was initiated into the sport when they started playing as a
mixed team and the women’s team started since there were a significant
number of players who wanted to get together. “My boyfriend thinks its
good for me because I’ve always enjoyed sport.”
Chanaka, their coach, says that the team played the last tournament, which
they won, quite well and adds that there is lots of potential since the
players are really interested in the game. “They are hard to control and
collect but they know the game and just have to brush up a little. We have
to improve a lot, but in a short period they have learnt a lot and they play
says that there have been no major injuries while playing with the guys.
“They are very aware of us and make sure that we actually get to play
properly. They don’t treat us with kid gloves but help us to develop our
team is trying to get more Sri Lankans in she said, adding that they will be
having a massive recruitment drive shortly to recruit players. “There is
no negative aspect at all and even the crowd reaction has been very
positive. We want to encourage girls in Sri Lanka to come and play. It’s
all about normal girls really enjoying a sport and it’s a great way to
keep fit,” she said.
or universal ethics?
from last week...
Ibn Rushad an Arab philosopher who
lived in Spain in the 12th
century, said, “Religions were meant
for fools and for children or they could not be acted upon.”
matter in the universe have been classified into two categories viz;
the living and the non-living. It is the nervous tissue that animates
matter and causes the difference. The nervous system is the mechanism which
enables an organism to react in response to external and internal stimuli,
for its well being. Impulses go every second to the sensory cortex from the
six sense organs via the posterior nerve roots and cause the organism to be
alert and sensitive to its environs. The subject is, so to say, in a state
of alertness, which in medical parlance is known as ‘consciousness.’
subject is blindfolded and all 31 pairs of posterior nerve roots severed, no
impulse enters the sensory area of the cerebrum. The skeletal muscles will
lose their tone i.e. become flaccid, it will not know its sense of position
either, and will lie unconscious like a dead animal though its vital
functions will be intact.
modern medical science acquired complete knowledge of the human anatomy and
physiology, theologists and philosophers drilled into the ears and minds of
their followers that the heart was the receptacle of all sensations,
storehouse of knowledge and seat of memory. Thanks to medical science for
proving that the heart was merely a hollow muscular organ whose only
function was to pump blood out to all parts of the body, and that it was the
nervous system that animated the physical body of all beings.
and philosophers have still not stated the exact location of the soul in our
body; what happens to the soul when the animal is in a state of pathological
coma, during sleep, under the influence of narcotic drugs etc. The Buddha
and the materialists were perhaps correct when they enunciated the anatma
vada doctrine. The words, soul and consciousness are probably synonyms
for one and the same phenomenon viz;- soul and consciousness (sign of life).
(action) is of
two kinds viz; speech and deed. All religious leaders and philosophers are
unanimous in their teachings that good karma is a passport to heaven (moksha
/ nibbana) while bad karma sends one to suffer eternal torment in
hell / fall in the grip of sansara until the individual earns merit
to attain moksha / nibbana.
Buddhism and Jainism enunciated the doctrine of karma or cumulative
effect of one’s actions in former lives, as the central point of their
teaching. The soul was born again and again (sansara) on account of
its karma. If, by right living and thinking one can get rid of
one’s karma, the individual attains moksha / nibbana.
This can only be attained by practicing purity of thought, word and deed
i.e. by practicing rigidly the pancha sil. Be good, do good, see
good. It is strange that people praise their religion, fight for their
religion but do not practice the precepts of their religion.
question that arises is, can a child of 10 or a mentally retarded adult be
considered as having committed a wrongful act, if such a person had stabbed
another to death or if animals whose sixth sense has not developed to the
degree of man’s, commit crimes? Why did God create the cat and the rat in
our homes, the tiger and the deer in the forests, the shark and the sprats
in the seas? Is God not aiding and abetting killing? Can lower beings
observe the pancha sil?
and philosophers are not unanimous in their views.
differ in their concept of God, soul, re-birth, karma etc. The blind
should not lead the blind. Truth is one. There can be no competition between
truth and truth e.g. 1+1=2: 1+2 cannot also be 2.
have explored and have walked on the moon, not due to the generosity and
grace of God, but due to the help of modern science and technology. We are
today in the age of science and technology viz; rockets, missiles, test-tube
babies, transplantation of organs, limbs etc. Functions hitherto believed to
have been the exclusive monopoly of God, are now being performed by man
(science). We have every reason to be optimistic that our astronauts will,
in the near future explore the celestial regions of the various Gods and
acquaint us with the life our ancestors are living in the so called
pleasure-gardens and torture-chambers up in the skies.
comes by birth. It cannot be changed. Religion on the other hand is
something that is thrust on an individual and the individual can, if he /
she wishes, change his/her faith any time, any number of times if he / she
during the last 2000 years or more, religions have failed miserably to
foster unity and peace among the various races of the world. It is time we
considered the feasibility or otherwise of continuing the teaching of
religion to our children. It must be admitted that religion drives man into
water-tight compartments which in turn creates rivalry, animosity, hatred
etc. among the different sects of the followers of the same religion.
Religions have miserably failed in their efforts to make this earth a haven
for all mankind.
Lanka is to face the challenges of the 21st
century, we should, instead of teaching religion and philosophy, focus
attention on teaching universal ethics, science and technology to our
children. If we remain blind to this fact, we may, forever, remain a third
world country. Sri Lanka should make an honest effort to register for
herself a berth among the developed nations of the world. Books on religion,
philosophy and ayurveda should be sent to the National Archives for
eternal rest in peace.
Dr. S. K. Vadivale
was strict with politicians and bureaucrats...
We continue our serial of B. Sirisena Cooray’s book on President Premadasa — Premadasa
And I - Our Story
We started by preparing a work
schedule. The first task was to arrange
for the supply of bricks of the right
quality. We summoned a meeting of brick suppliers all over the country in
Anuradhapura and placed orders with them. The bricks would be tested by
archaeological experts for the right specifications before being accepted.
But still I could see that there would be a serious shortfall in the supply
of bricks. So I met the President, explained the situation to him and asked
for more time. For the first time in his life he agreed to a postponement. I
managed to convince him not to announce the new date until I told him. I was
working to a target but I did not want to tell him that. I must state that
we did not use any government funds for the job. Mr. Premadasa gave some
money from the President’s Fund and the balance we collected from the
about three months the President called me. He knew I was having problems
with the restoration work. He gave me a piece of paper with a drawing done
by Ven. Kotugoda Dhammawasa Thero. The Thero had gone to Burma where there
are a lot of Buddhist priests meditating in the jungle. He had gone to one
of these jungle hermitages. A resident monk had talked to him through the
interpreter and said: “in your country there is some restoration work
going on; you will not be able to complete it until a certain task is
attended to.” Then he had gone on to say that prior to the construction of
Mirisawetiya another small chaithya had been built in close
proximity, in 24 hours. This small chaithya was supposed to have been
built for the God inhabiting the place where Mirisawetiya was going to be
built. The Burmese monk had said that until that place is located and the
small chaithya is rebuilt in 24 hours it would not be possible to
complete the restoration work.
got down Ven. Dhammawasa Thero and went to the site with Archaeological
Department officials and started looking for the place where the small chaithya
stood. But we could not find it. My assumption was that since it was
built in 24 hours it could not have been a big one. Of course I have to
admit that at this point I did not take this tale very seriously; I was just
humouring Mr. Premadasa. Finally I informed the President that the location
could not be found and the search would have to be abandoned; he did not
object. But the work was not progressing because there was a severe shortage
this time I was getting worried. Then one of our people told me that the
former incumbent of the Sambodhi Viharaya wanted to meet me. He had heard
this whole story and he explained it to me in a different way. He said:
“when you want to build something there are certain pre-conditions you
have to fulfil; rebuilding this miniature chaithya is one such
thing.” I thought that sounded logical. So I went back to the site with
Ven. Dhammawasa Thero. I thought through the whole thing and concluded that
we have not been able to find the location for two reasons – because what
we are looking for is a very small edifice and because it was built 1000
years ago and it has been completely destroyed with time. So my suggestion
was that we should build a small chaithya close to Mirisawetiya. The
priest was wondering whether it could be done in 24 hours but I undertook
the responsibility. And we did it — a replica of Mirisawetiya built in 24
hours. I was there throughout, until it was finished.
next day we had another meeting. I asked the Archaeological Department
officials once again why they could not supply us with the necessary bricks
since they too are making them. All this time they had been saying they
can’t do that. On that day they agreed. After that the work progressed
fast. So one has to admit that there was something in that legend.
Unfortunately we could not finish the job before the President was
of the things Mr. Premadasa wanted to accomplish, he could not because of
the turbulence in the country. It was not only the JVP and the LTTE but also
the problems in our own camp. However despite all the problems his
Presidency was a good period. He introduced a sense of discipline which is
totally lacking today. He also set a certain standard. He felt that without
development there could not be peace in the country. He believed in building
a sense of mutual respect, a sense of solidarity between people belonging to
different ethnic groups and religions. And with his life he exemplified
these ideals. We do not have leaders like that anymore.
insults and the baseless accusations against Mr. Premadasa became infinitely
worse after he became the president. If some of these accusations were made
during the time he was the PM, he would have never been made the UNP
candidate; the party hierarchy would have used these to deprive him of the
candidacy. When he became the president many of those who looked down on him
for caste and social reasons regarded it as an intolerable insult. His
achievements only made them angrier and they tried to bring him down
somehow. They could not attack him on his work, his thinking and his vision
because there was nothing to tell. So they attacked his character. The
accusations were not the usual ones because in these areas too there was
nothing anybody could say. Therefore they had to resort to other types of
accusations. First they made fun of his family background, his caste etc.
Then they blamed him for the killings using his ‘background’ as both
proof and justification — “what else can you expect from a person of his
background” is what they used to say.
Mr. Premadasa became the president, he tried to set new standards. Reform
was necessary but he was doing things too fast. That is why I think Mr.
Premadasa should have expected the impeachment. Because such a backlash is
inevitable when you try to change the established set up and to change it
fast. He was in a hurry so he felt he had to do everything at the same time;
he felt very strongly that he could not afford to wait. That was why he was
so strict with politicians and bureaucrats.
asked him: “Why are you so harsh with these people.” I still remember
his reply: “politicians contest; they go to parliament. From that moment
they get scolded by the people like thieves; nothing good is said about
them. I want to change all that. I want to make people revere politicians by
changing politicians. That is why I am doing all this. Today some people may
criticise me. I know I am unpopular with some people. Not today, not
tomorrow, but in 20 years they will admit that I did the right thing.” And
he was right. During his time no MP or minister was accused of corruption,
not even in parliament. If there were any accusations they were against him.
campaign of lies and slander against Mr. Premadasa received a boost with the
killing of Richard de Soyza. I remember that Mr. Premadasa was very upset
about that killing. He did not know anything about it until after it
happened. But I know he felt very sorry about the whole thing. Several times
he asked me whether I knew who was responsible. He wanted me to check with
Ronnie Gunasinghe. I did so and Gunasinghe swore that he had nothing to do
with it. He said: “Sir it was not us. It was an amateurish job.” I told
this to Mr. Premadasa and he agreed. I felt that by this time he had found
out how it happened.
remember that Lalith brought this case up at the cabinet meeting. He spoke
sense; he warned that this incident would go against the government. Ranjan
was seated next to me and he whispered to me: “Why is this fellow
not think that Richard was killed because of his involvement with the JVP. I
think it was done for some personal reason. I don’t think even the army
knew. I remember asking Cecil Waidyaratne: “Why did they allow the body to
be recovered? Why did they go to the house in full uniform to take him away?
Surely he could have been abducted on the road if they wanted to keep it a
secret?” All these things are still mysteries. I should also say that
Richard is still being talked about because of his class background. It is
true that this talk is limited to Colombo. But still it did us enormous
political damage. Perhaps Mr. Premadasa should have tried harder to uncover
what really happened. Perhaps he did not want to antagonise the army and the
police. He may have been worried that they would turn against him. And he
could not afford to antagonise Ranjan either.
the main factors that led to the impeachment was the dissatisfaction felt by
Lalith Athulathmudali and Gamini Dissanayake about the way Mr. Premadasa
treated them. Both of them were very disappointed at not been made the PM. I
talked to both of them after Mr. Wijethunga was appointed prime minister.
Before that I told the President that I did not agree with his choice of the
prime minster. I said: “You should have appointed one of these two
fellows. We should have let them fight it out.” I think Mr. Premadasa was
a little angry. He asked me: “Why are you saying this? Can’t you
remember what these fellows did?” I said: “Yes. I remember. But they
both worked for you during the presidential election.” Then he said:
“Let us see how they are going to work. You know what President
Jayewardene did to me. But still I defended him in parliament and I
continued to work for the party. So let us see what these fellows are going
to do”. He also told me that Mr. Wijethunga was appointed only for one
Lankan woman — quo vadis?
Mandana Ismail Abeywickrema
It is somewhat hard to fathom how one
would witness the total liberation of
women in a patriarchal society where gender
disparity is abundant. However much
emphasis being laid on women’s rights around the world, the plight of
women is expected to take a turn for the better.
women’s rights have found acceptance
in the Western world, the question is whether these rights have the
same level of acceptance in the
less developed countries in the Asian and African continents. Most women in
these countries still live in the shadow of a man — first the father, then
the husband and finally the son. Although much has changed where attitudes
are concerned, the birth of a boy is still considered a more jubilant event
than the birth of a girl.
issue of sexual abuse of women, most often than not, the victim is looked
down upon and blamed by society while the wrong-doer walks out free. As for
domestic violence, the minute a woman comes out with her grievance, society
once again tend to find fault with the woman.
was International Women’s Day. As the world celebrates with various
programmes, it is an opportune time to take a look at the real plight of the
Sri Lankan woman. With many women’s rights activists coming out forcefully
with anti abuse slogans even in Sri Lanka, whether these cries have been
heard by the people who matter is what
needs to be seen. Has the number of battered women in the country reduced?
Are they treated with dignity? Do they have equal rights?
high time we look deeper to see whether women in Sri Lanka really have the
rights they are entitled to.
to Savithri Wijesekara of Women In Need (WIN), Sri Lankan women today are a
little more empowered than earlier. They are now looking into options to
find their way out of the labyrinth of physical and sexual abuse. Such a
change in attitude is definitely a positive sign. However, there yet remains
a lot to be done for Sri Lankan women to achieve a reasonable state of
of physical and sexual abuse endured by Sri Lankan women, Wijesekara
observed that though there are no specific reasons, there definitely is an
increase in the number. According to Wijesekara, the violence prevalent in
today’s society coupled with the war, which has paved the way for many to
gain access to weapons, are the main reasons for the increase in violence.
the past year, WIN has received over 6,000 cases of domestic violence,
which, as Wijesekara pointed out, was 1,000 more than the previous year.
However, unlike earlier, battered women have now decided to come out .
explained that the awareness created on domestic and sexual abuse suffered
by women in the country, along with precautionary methods and methods of
salvation, have given them the
strength to resort to take action. While some take their grievances to
courts, some prefer to receive counselling. “In such instances, especially
where domestic violence is concerned, with the consent of the victim, the
counsellor speaks to the spouse and children to look into ways of solving
the problem,” said Wijesekara.
the number of women who bring their cases out seeking help is just a drop in
the ocean, as there are hundreds and thousands who suffer in the dark. Their
sorrows and tears are limited to the four walls that surround them. One
wonders why these women have opted to suffer in silence when there is help
at hand. Is it because they are backward?
to Wijesekara, these women are not backward, but mere pawns in a patriarchal
society suffering from gender disparity. Girls and boys are brought up in
different ways and what goes into their minds at an early age continue into
their adult lives. Wijesekara explained that once a girl gets married and
begins to have arguments with her husband, her mother and grandmother would
always advise her to be patient and be quiet, as her husband is just being a
man. At this point, the girl is given the impression that to stand up for
what she believes is right is shameful. Fear is also added to the matter.
Once these thoughts are embedded in a woman’s mind, whenever she feels
abused she would question herself, whether she is at fault. The social
stigma stops them from seeking justice.
women who come to WIN have been battered for about three or four years
before they reluctantly decide to come out with their sorrows,” said
Wijesekara. However, unlike the older generation, the younger generation
seems to be more aware of the options available to them. Although many
prefer counseling, only a few resort to taking legal action.
further, Wijesekara said that in some instances, domestic violence takes a
nasty turn. According to her, the WIN branch at the National Hospital has
looked into 250 victims of domestic abuse referred to them by the hospital.
Wijesekara observed that the attitude of battered women has changed through
the years, but the process has been very slow. She added that men too play a
vital role in reducing the number of women suffering from sexual and other
forms of physical abuse.
Women’s Affairs Ministry, Lalitha Dissanayake told The Sunday Leader
that although there are many women suffering from sexual abuse and domestic
violence, they have no exact figure. “It is prevalent, but not on
record,” she said. Legislation to look into matters of women’s abuse is
being formulated. Dissanayake went on to say that the Ministry is working on
the legalities, and hopes to introduce an Act
by the end of the year.
Dissanayake observed that as part of the International Women’s Day
celebrations, the Ministry plans to address the matter of equal
opportunities in employment. Explaining further, Dissanayake stated that
there are discrepancies in female employment, adding that although women
have achieved something substantial socially, there is still a lot to be
achieved economically and politically.
employment is concerned, women are expected to be satisfied with jobs
considered to be of ‘lower levels,’ also considered low paid jobs.
According to Dissanayake, women should step out of the conventional jobs for
women — teaching, nursing, clerical work, etc. — and be introduced to
new areas of employment. Speaking of employed women, she noted they too face
gender discrimination when it comes to wages and promotions.
bring in the largest share of foreign income into the country,” said
Dissanayake. Unfortunately, in most cases women have become victims here as
well. Women’s labour has been exploited and they face many problems
regarding their employment, abroad. Dissanayake pointed out that the return
they get for their work is very poor, especially the living conditions and
most of all respect.
went on to say that the unemployment rate of women is double
the rate of unemployed men and that has been so for the past 15
years. Many women graduates too don’t find decent jobs. The reason for
this as Dissanayake pointed out is the fact that many tend to employ less
qualified people at a lower pay.
aspect that hinders women where employment is concerned is the dual role
played by women — Juggling the roles of housewife and career woman. They
have to balance both and the minute there is an imbalance, women have to
face grave situations, either at home or at the work place. According to
Dissanayake, this stops women from reaching top posts in their chosen
Dissanayake stated that since gaining independence, there has been a
remarkable improvement in the position of women where health and education
are concerned. As for other aspects, Dissanayake observed that there is a
lot to be done, and it takes time. She added that men too have a role to
play in order to find lasting solutions to problems faced by women.
efforts to contact the officer in charge of women’s affairs in the Women
and Child Bureau of the Sri Lanka Police were not successful.
all, the plight of women in Sri Lanka has changed little. Women’s rights
seem to exist mainly in the minds of women’s rights activists. The changes
that have taken place in society have to be acknowledged, but the pace is
far from satisfactory. A lot has to be done to alleviate the position of
women in the country, and the sooner the better. If things keep happening at
snail’s pace, then women in Sri Lanka will continue to remain
backward in the world.
22 year old breadwinner has lost the will to live
The room is hot and stuffy. The
fan is not switched on. There is no TV,
no radio, merely an old worthless bed.
On this lies Chitrangani’s priceless
possession – her twenty two year old son. Sasanka Perera, fresh-faced and
young, yet unable to move anymore. These tender, yet sturdy limbs once
worked hard to bring food to the table. They played cricket, they ran
errands, they did every possible thing to make his mother happy since his
is an appeal from the family of the late M.S. Perera, a peon of the Court of
Appeal. When Perera passed away on February 10, 2002, the family had to
survive on his pension of approximately Rs.4,000.
Chitrangani and her sons Achira (21) and Dilshan (13) have banded together to look after their older brother
Sasanka. Sasanka was the tower of strength to this family; Sasanka, brought
home first the certificates from school, and then the money.
fed his family for years. But today his mother is barely able to feed him.
Tube feed him, that is. “I have to give him a milk powder which costs Rs.
886 and I cannot afford that. So I have to put what is available down the
nasal tubes, sometimes it is kenda, sometimes fruit juice, sometimes
nothing” cries this mother in pain.
painful when a rich family has to tube feed their 22 year old, but it is
even more painful when a family which has to strive to live presentably, has
to be tube-feed their 22 year old. For they have to recognise unacceptable
facts, that they have nothing to send down that tube.
Perera was diagnosed as having a condition called ‘hole in the heart’
when he was just three months old. But the physician at that time had
assured his parents that this could ‘close up.’ They had waited in hope,
in fact, this family’s only expectation, only wish from God had been that
there will come a natural healing.
the anxious parents got only more bad news. They were asked to bring back
Sasanka when he was 12 years.
Sasanka was admitted to hospital at12 years, he was infected with chicken
pox so we had to bring him home,” explained Chitrangani. Then again when
we took him to the general hospital we were told that ‘the machine was
were tense and frightened and we could not take it anymore. Then my husband
said that perhaps there is a message in this operation not taking place,
maybe this is the bad time and that we ought to wait,” said Chitrangani.
meantime, the family waited fearfully. “Even if he developed a common
cold, we had to give him antibiotics,” pointed out his mother.
his Ordinary Level examination Sasanka had been telling his friends that he
was going in for surgery.
the actual surgery took place it was on March 9, 2002. Going in for
‘VSD’ and ‘AVR,’ what Sasanka expected was to come back home alive.
But something quite different happened.
was a time when there was a rumour about a germ in the operating theatre. On
the second day after the operation, my son developed a rise in body
temperature. We had to do some tests and when I went inside to see him, he
was crying. He told me not to come in, that he was dying. I was heartbroken.
I love my boy very much and even to this day I remember the day he was
born,” cried Chitrangani.
examination of the patient, a physician however had revealed to Chitrangani
in her son’s presence that “there had been a leak after the first
was taken in for surgery again on March 24 and after the operation sent to
the ICU. During the operation, they said that his heart had stopped. When I
saw him again it was on March 25. My son was on a ventilator. He was not
conscious,” cried Chitrangani.
three months Chitrangani sat by her son and waited for him to regain
when he opened his eyes, it had lifted Chitrangani’s heart and soul. But
her happiness was shortlived. For though she got her son back, she had
actually lost him. All he could do was look at her with his sad eyes and
leave everything else unsaid.
Sasanka could no longer talk, no longer move, no longer hug her or say that
he will do everything for her for as long as he lives.
second son has a problem with his hormones, but I am unable to do anything,
because of my Sasanka. We have to be with him, feed him, wash him and clothe
him,” she said. Her house down a narrow passage at No. 103 Vihara Mawatha,
Bellanwila, Dehiwala is cluttered. Worry and anxiety are in the air .
family has been advised to not let this 22 year old stare out of the blocked
window. “Maybe you should keep a TV beside him and make life more
comfortable for him,” suggested a social worker.
for Chitrangani who is weighed down with bills, who is unable to switch on
the cobweb ridden fan to soothe
her son’s clammy body, a TV is like a dream on celluloid itself.
There is much sadness around us. There are many who are grieving, many in want and in pain. Being unable to give one’s young son what he needs, especially when he is bedridden is perhaps the cruelest pain that fate can give to a mother.
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